The one thing that surprised me in sharing these tests was the similarity of the answers. I expected to be rated much higher on the aggressive scale. As it turns out, I rated myself the highest. I still think this is area I need to remain mindful of. Living in this culture and interacting with young children and their families dictates that the best approach is someone who is ready and able to listen and understand.
I was pleased to come out as people oriented. There are times when I just want to get the job done and take the fastest route to get there. But it seems that this is not the overall impression I give to those I work with. So I must remain conscious of this but things are on the right track.
I was not able to do this with my sister who does not live here and who does not know me as well in this setting. It would have been interesting how she would rate me. Perhaps at a later time.
There are days in all our lives that we wish could be erased. As much as they may stick out in our memories, it seems they are more easily forgotten by our friends.
Bobbie,
ReplyDeleteGreat post! It was so interesting to be rated by other people! I knew I was critical of myself but I had no idea how critical. My husband was the person taking the test that I was the most anticipating. I also found myself more critical than others did of me but I definitely feel like I learned a lot about myself through this activity.
I was amazed at the rating I got for the verbal aggressiveness too. My son and my rating was moderate while my friend rated me as significant which was shocking to me. Generally , I think is one area I really need to work at.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing
Bobbie,
ReplyDeleteThings are easily forgotten by those who choose to overlook them, which tend to be those who hold neither resentment nor anger. I have found that to be true many times. This test could not have come at a better time. Ironically my husband and I were at war with words at each other and I wanted to see just how "badly" he viewed my communication. It wasn't as bad as I thought, and I felt relieved by that. I would really like to know what your sister would have scored you as.
Tina
Bobbie,
ReplyDeleteI was pretty surprised myself as I scored fairly high on the aggressive scale. This assignment has helped me to realize the areas of communication where I fall short, it is never too late to change so I am glad I know what needs improvement!
Erikka
Hi Bobbie,
ReplyDeleteI also did very well on the assignment. I do believe that this test was not conplete. I did not wnat to answer a lot of the question because they did not applie. So I do believe that the test was not complete.